Woman shot 4 times by ex says she would take that pain 10 times over pain of losing fiance

Natalie Marx was shot four times by her ex-husband on Friday, Feb. 7, 2020. Her fiance, Nathan Brower, was killed in the same shooting. (Photo: KUTV)

A man shot his ex-wife and killed her fiancé last week in West Valley City.

Natalie Marx, who was shot four times, was able to return home this week. She and her mother said they lived in fear that something like this would happen. Now, Marx has to recover from her physical injuries, and the loss of her fiancé, Nathan Brower.

Marx said she and her ex-husband, Jeremy Reed Harris, were divorced for years, but custody battles over their three children continued to cause problems.

“He told me he was going to come after me. He says: 'I’m coming for you,'” Marx said.

Finally, things came to a head on Friday. Marx said she had to make the call to her mother she had been fearing for some time.

“I pictured that call. I had already known that call was going to come — but it was awful. It’s awful to have to wake your parents up and say, 'Jeremy shot me. He shot me and Nathan is dead.'"

Marx said in recent months Harris had been trying to get her alone. She says Harris came to her home on Friday, just as her fiancé, Nathan, was leaving the house.

She recalled the morning it happened:

“Nathan, again, called for me. He said, 'Natalie, call the cops ... call the cops!'"

She went to see what was going on and found her ex-husband standing outside.

“I noticed he had a gun. I don’t even remember what my exact words were, but I was like, 'What are you doing? Get out of here!'” Marx said.

She said by that time, Harris had already fired one shot.

“Nathan was trying to walk toward me, and Jeremy just shot him."

Next, she says he came after her, and she rushed to get her kids away.

“I was trying to run to get to CeCe, to get back into her room. I knew I had been shot — I hurt — but it wasn’t until he shot me in my back, because he just kept shooting into the closed door,” Marx said.

She was shot four times. Nathan didn’t survive. As she recovers from her physical injuries, she said the emotional pain is far more excruciating.

“I would honestly deal with 10 times that pain, that physical pain, than what I feel emotionally — just, what I’ve lost."

She said protective orders were issued on both sides, but prevented her from being able to take action against her ex. Marx wants the system to change, and said the state needs more resources for women trying to get away.

Police say Harris was found dead later that day from a self-inflicted gun shot wound. Marx says the fear she lived with wouldn’t die until one of them did.

“He would have never given up until I was gone, or something happened to him. He was just that persistent on making sure I was going to hurt."

In addition to all she’s dealing with, Marx also has three daughters — ages 5, 10, and 13 — who are dealing with the loss of their father, and the man — Nathan — who had become such a part of their lives.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic or dating violence, resources are available to help. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.

The Utah Domestic Violence Coalition hotline can be reached 24/7 at 1-800-897-5465, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available at 1-800-799-7233.

A list of local domestic violence shelters can be found online here. Resources are also available through the YWCA of Utah.